I’ve been dating my boyfriend, Adrian, for almost a year. I agree with my friends when they say we’re perfect for each other. I can’t imagine being with anyone else. Although, before we became “Adrian and Alyssa,” our relationship wasn’t so fairytale perfect.
I met Adrian last September. It was love at first sight for both of us. I had butterflies in my stomach and I could tell he felt the connection, too. But one minor detail. He had a girlfriend that he was about to celebrate his two-year anniversary with.
You can piece the puzzle together: Adrian broke up with his girlfriend and we officially become an “us” a few months later. I can imagine the word home-wrecker is going through some minds. But since when is there a protocol for this?
Sometimes you can’t fight fate, as wrong as that idea may seem. Adrian was in a failing relationship. When I came into his life, he saw what a genuine relationship could be. In his defense, and much to my dismay, he tried ignoring his feelings and working it out with his girlfriend. But in the end, we listened to our hearts, which is what I’m telling you to do.
Don’t be stupid. If you’re in a relationship, then don’t make-out with that new certain someone the second you meet him because he “could be the one.” If you’re in a failing relationship, listen to your heart, and get out. Don’t stay with someone because you think it can’t get any worse. Listen to your heart if you like that taken guy or girl. Don’t tell them “I love you” after two days, but if you feel that connection, you have to go for it.
There is someone out there for you who will make your reality better than your dreams. Don’t ignore that this-is-the-person-I-want-to-marry-feeling. They may turn out to be your future spouse.
I am telling you there is no relationships 101 handbook.
It was worth it for me not to move on. It was worth it for me to stay and fight for Adrian. It was worth it for me to like a boy who was taken. Only you can decide if it’s worth it for you.
Love is tricky. There are no rules. There is only your heart and your head. I say choose your heart.
