Name-calling. Let’s face it, we’ve all witnessed it. It might have been as subtle as a kid in the park being called ‘spastic’ because they swung a bat at a baseball and missed or a group of teens conversing within themselves and using the slur “retard,” when one says something foolish.
These are just two of the many words which have historically been used to refer to and describe people with disabilities. Unfortunately, they have been taken out of context, now commonly used slang words that are thrown around by people of all ages. When people use these words in their day-to-day language, it is usually to insult someone or call them uncoordinated or simple.
So why shouldn’t we use these types of words to convey such feelings? Most simply put, it is hurtful and derogatory. Using these words as slang terms suggests that people with disabilities are flawed and stupid. People might almost never have this intention, but they still cause people with disabilities or friends and family members of those with disabilities pain. In addition, it reinforces the already negative stereotypes of people with disabilities.
Would removing these terms from the vocabulary be seen as too politically correct? Avoiding these words is not being overly politically correct. It’s just showing basic human decency and respect to others. There are tons of people out there that defend the use of words like these with a degrading connotation, claiming that “it isn’t that serious” or that “it’s used like that all the time.” Just put yourself in the shoes of a person with a disability and think about how it would make you feel. Think about it on the same level as being called a sexist, racist or homophic.
Long story short, you really shouldn’t use any word without knowing its meaning and proper context, especially if it might come out as offensive.
But what should be done if we hear someone using a word like this in the wrong context? I’m sure many of us have been in a conversation with someone, a co-worker or even a friend, where they casually use the R-slur. It’s honestly a situation that’s both awkward and difficult, especially if it’s with someone you aren’t completely comfortable with. The best way to deal with this circumstance is to just let the person gently know that it’s not acceptable. You can even go farther, reminding them that there are lots of other options which aren’t insulting.
It may seem difficult at first to remove those words from your subconscious day-to-day language, but with mindful practice, we can all become more aware and adapt to a more considerate vocabulary.
In summary: use the correct words to describe something, whether it’s a mental illness, disability or a descriptive word in general. Acknowledge when stereotypes exist and debunk them. For people with disabilities, use language that recognizes that they are separate from their illness. It is not what defines them.
For the purpose of simply being a better person, be mindful, educate yourself and use words correctly.
