Valentine’s Day is right around the corner and that means watching relationships come together, people receiving chocolates, gifts, flowers and so much more. People in relationships find this holiday to be a very special time, but what if you don’t have anyone? What does Valentine’s Day mean without a partner?
Those individuals who don’t have anyone often begin to compare their lives to the lives of others.
According to Cierra Davis, a mental health psychologist at NSU, “People will compare, and this is normal. Within a community, individuals don’t want to feel less than. This is where insecurity and comparison starts to play a role.”
Valentine’s day is a “love holiday,” but without someone else’s love, this holiday may appear meaningless to some people.
“Valentine’s Day is not about being with someone physically, it’s about learning to love yourself first. Just because one is alone doesn’t mean you should feel alone. Love starts with you,” said Davis.
This is important to understand because people try to find their other half before knowing what loving themselves means and feels like.
Davis also offered some tips and tricks you can do this Valentine’s Day if you are alone.
“Begin by showing one’s self-love and affection by creating opportunities to reconnect with the best version of yourself,” she said.
You can go about this by creating a journal and writing down things you love about yourself or spending Valentine’s Day with friends and family that care about you.Watch a movie, sit back and relax. At the end of the day, the only person who will never leave your side is your. So, connect and find love within.
Like Davis said, “Being alone is normal — and there is no shame in it.”
In today’s society, finding someone to love and be in a relationship with is nearly impossible if you don’t know how to love. Loving yourself is the most important tool to loving someone else. In a world that is experiencing a pandemic, meeting new people and finding “the one” is not easy. Isolating ourselves begins to test us. Are you okay being alone? If the answer is no, you are not ready to be with someone else. So, love yourself. Care for yourself. This Valentine’s Day, treat yourself. Go to a movie, go buy yourself chocolate and show up for you.
