Navigating relationships, both romantic and platonic, can be a difficult task. Especially in college, when students are given opportunities to meet new people and foster new connections, the path to healthy relationships can be a bumpy road. College can be the place you find your closest friends, your best mentors or even your life partner, but unfortunately, not all relationships are positive, healthy ones. According to Loveisrespect.org, nearly half (43%) of women dating in college report experiencing violent and abusive dating behaviors, and the numbers are high among college men as well.
Why such a high percentage? Difficulties identifying unhealthy relationship behaviors points to part of the problem. 57% of college students say it’s difficult to identify these types of relationships and 58% say they don’t know how to help someone who’s experiencing it, according to Loveisrespect.com. Without being equipped with the knowledge and tools to identify and remedy toxic relationships, many college students fall victim to their dangerous effects. There are innumerous negative effects that being in an unhealthy relationship can have on young individuals, including putting the victims at higher risk for substance abuse, eating disorders, risky sexual behavior and further domestic violence. It is important to remember that not every unhealthy relationship looks the same. Every relationship is different and it can be difficult to discern when a healthy relationship turns unhealthy or even abusive, but being aware of some common signs is crucial.
- Checking your cell phone or email without your permission
- Constantly putting you down
- Extreme jealousy or insecurity
- Explosive temper
- Isolating you from family or friends
- Making false accusations
- Mood swings
- Physically hurting you in any way
- Possessiveness
- Telling you what to do
- Pressuring or forcing you to have sex
Communicate
Communication is a fundamental building block in any relationship and can help you to avoid and identify warning signs before they become an issue. If something is bothering you, speak up. If you aren’t comfortable talking to your friend or partner about their behavior, go to someone you can confide in. Whether it’s a close friend, a family member, school counselor or a Title IX Officer, make sure you have someone to talk to. In many cases, outside advice can help individuals decide what plan of action to take to fix or get out of a toxic relationship. NSU has a variety of resources available to help students who may be struggling with an unhealthy or abusive relationship. Don’t hesitate to reach out if you or someone you know needs help.
Resources
Laura Bennett Title XI Coordinator Tel: 954-262-7858 Email: laura.bennett@nova.edu
Desmond Daniels, Title IX Investigator/Deputy Title IX Coordinator Tel: 954-262-7863 Email: dddaniels@nova.edu
Henderson Student Counseling Center Office: 954-424-6911 or 954-262-7050 Hotline: 954-424-6911 or 954-262-7050 (available 24 hours, 7 days a week) hendersonbh.org/studentcounseling-3.php
