Water your thoughts: Girls and guys can be friends no problem… until there’s a problem

NSU students are opinionated about all kinds of things, from universal social issues to NSU-specific concerns. Sometimes, however, we Sharks just need to rant about the smaller things in life to let off some steam.  In this column, The Current asks: water your thoughts?

There is a stigma that claims that guys and girls can’t be friends without getting romantically involved. I don’t believe this to be true. Over the years, I have and have had many friendships with guys without finding myself in romantic relationships with them. I’m the type of person who makes friends with everyone so I understand how sometimes the lines can get blurred. It annoys me when people say, “You can’t be friends with a guy without the friendship inevitably getting weird.”

Is there really a way for girl-guy relationships to be completely platonic?  Everyone I talk to seems to be locked in on the idea that these relationships don’t work out. It’s really hard to decipher someone else’s thoughts and feelings when we try our best to act casual and pay no mind to them. We think that if we just keep quiet and not talk about the specifics, we’ll be good. But there will always be that underlying “what if…” A friendship may start out because one of the two individuals had feelings and then squashed them, or it started out friendly and ended in a more serious relationship. It depends on the people, the circumstances and the age of the people involved. I just have a hard time coming to terms with the idea that girl-guy friendships are a lost cause.

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